OOTD: Spring pastels for a day of Boston adventures

woman wearing lavender lace dress with pastel accessories in front of pink cherry tree

Boston has a reputation for being unfriendly, but I’ve never found that to be true. Yesterday, while out and about in the Public Garden, I asked a stranger if she could take a picture of me in front of a pink tree–and she was super-helpful, asked if I was a fashion blogger (yay!), and took a bunch of pictures from different distances. We exchanged contact info, and it turns out she sells Stella & Dot jewelry; you can check out her page here.

Thank you, Liz, for these lovely pictures! 🙂

woman in lavender lace dress and peach hair bow in front of pink cherry trees

Dress: H&M, sandals: Clark’s, bracelets: So Good, headband and necklace: Forever 21, earrings: I don’t even remember, pink rose statement ring: The Tiny Teapot, silver rose ring: I’ve had since high school

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So much fat fabulousness

Seriously, is this National Fat Week of Awesome or something?

First, there’s the short film Fatshionably Viral: The Weight of Visibility, which Linda Dianne made for her MA thesis.

She’s planning to turn it into a feature-length documentary about the Fatshionista LiveJournal, fatshion blogging, and body positivity, which is so exciting. I can’t wait to see what she does with it!

Then there’s this amazing video that Gabi Gregg made of herself, Tess Munster, and Nadia Aboulhosn singing along to Beyonce’s “Flawless.”

I generally don’t pass along things that Nadia Aboulhosn does, because she’s said some racist stuff. But I’m making an exception in this case both because this video is SO NEEDED, and because I feel that the positives of promoting the work of a black woman (Gabi) outweigh the negatives of lending credibility to a woman who has made anti-black comments (Nadia).

Fat Flash Mob 2014

Not only was this weekend the Big Thrifty here in Boston and the Big Fat Flea in New York, but it was also the Fat Flash Mob in San Francisco! It looks like it was so much wonderful fat booty-shaking fun:

Jessica Judd has a great photo album from the event here, and Marilyn Wann has a few pictures here, here, and here (how rad is that hot pink flapper jumpsuit?!)

I love this kind of activism: just a bunch of awesome fatties being publicly loud, proud, and happy, wearing cute clothes and dancing up a storm. This is exactly what the world needs more of.

 

 

The Big Thrifty 2014 = awesomeness.

group of volunteers sitting on pile of bagged clothing donations

The Big Thrifty just gets better every year. This year, it moved to a much more spacious location, which was a huge improvement over the previous one. Not only was it bigger, air-conditioned, and so much more comfortable, but it had extra space for movement classes and hanging out. Being able to sit around, talk with my friends, and make new ones made the event so much more fun.

I volunteered to help set up the event the night before, which was a lot of fun although unexpectedly exhausting. I got to meet Deb Malkin, the founder of Re/Dress and co-founder of the Big Fat Flea, and a bunch of other cool people. We volunteers also got first crack at the clothes, and I found a few great pieces–including the sparkly bubble skirt that I wore to the event itself.

One of the new features this year was a photobooth, which means I have some fun pictures from the event to post! A bunch of them feature the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, a modern order of queer nuns. They were so nice and had some truly fabulous costumes.

three women and two drag nuns in rainbow photobooth

Me with Shannon, Emily, and two of the Sisters

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A Scarleteen update, and thoughts on sustainable funding and “free riders”

Remember how Scarleteen was planning to go on strike on May 1st unless they received enough donations to make their work sustainable? Happily, they did receive more than the minimum needed to continue their services, so they can keep up the important work of providing comprehensive sexuality education to young people.

In her update post, Heather Corinna talks about how many grassroots, independent organizations are in the same financial boat as Scarleteen, and urges the reader to support them. She asks her readers to give a recurring monthly donation if they can, even one as small as $10, and to donate their time by volunteering if they can’t donate money.

This is all important, and I hope that many people do set up recurring donations to Scarleteen and other small organizations that provide services to marginalized people. I hope that people realize the value of their work and support it however they can.

But I can’t help thinking about the broader economic context in which these calls for donations take place: the one in which far too many people don’t have the time or money to support the organizations they care about. The one in which real wages keep dropping while the cost of housing, medical care, and education skyrocket. The one in which hard work and career success rarely translate into financial stability, inequality widens precariously, jobs are replaced with contingent labor, and more and more people who grew up middle-class find themselves downwardly mobile. The one in which the American dream feels like a cruel joke. (Although inequality in the US is particularly terrible, much of this applies to people in other countries as well–global capitalism’s winners are few, and its losers are many.)

This is the Catch-22 of sustainable funding: small organizations need more donations so their staff can make a living wage and keep doing the work, but many of the people who would donate aren’t making living wages either. Recurring donations are particularly hard, since so many jobs have been replaced with temporary or freelance work–these days, reliable monthly incomes are more the exception than the rule. And the people with the least money to donate often have the least time to volunteer as well, since they’re patching together multiple part-time jobs to make ends meet.

Corinna links to a post by Elizabeth Wood of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance, who analyzes the reasons why sustainable support is hard to come by and calls on “free-riders” to put their money where their values are.

I think there’s a lot of truth in this post as well; but it feels like a glaring omission to talk about all the reasons why it’s hard to get sustainable funding for small sexuality organizations without even mentioning the bigger economic picture. It feels like a glaring omission to complain about the devalued labor and exploitation of non-profit workers without even a nod to the devalued labor and exploitation of huge numbers of people, many of whom would support orgs like Scarleteen and Woodhull if they could.

Wood’s exhortation to “free-riders” feels, to me, a bit too much like shaming people for being unable to donate to every organization they care about. Her call to “put your money where your values are” erases the reality that it takes a certain amount of privilege to be able to do so.

I don’t know what the solution is. Obviously, calls for donations are necessary; obviously, as illustrated by Scarleteen’s recent success, they work. I do believe that we have a collective responsibility to support important work like what Scarleteen does; but in our current economic climate, so many of us are struggling just to get by. How can we pull each other up when we’re barely staying afloat?

It’s hard to imagine a sustainable future for independent grassroots organizations without imagining a completely different economic system. But they still need to do their work now, in the economy we have–which means they have to keep asking for money from the same pool of people who care about many types of service and justice work, and who don’t necessarily have the money to fund them all.

Sunday links, 5/4/14

calico cat sitting in red lawn chair on a porch

My feline friend Sophie, who likes to come hang out on my porch.

Happy Star Wars Day–May the Fourth be with you! 😉

Fa(t)shion
Johnny Weir’s hat just won the Kentucky Derby.
(85 pieces of) proof that you can rock a bikini at any size!
-I love the Big Fat Flea’s fatshion features, and I hope to make it to their event someday.
-These gender neutral children’s clothes are great.
-Nicki Minaj = fashion inspiration forever.
-Leah reviews the Big Bloomers Company anti-chub-rub shorts. I’ve had good luck with similar shorts from the Thigh Society.
How to rock a tulle skirt without looking like you’re in a ballerina costume.

Fat Acceptance
-Two awesome fat events coming up in California: Fatty Fun in the Sun in Oakland, and Second Helpings Visual Art Exhibition and Performance Fatinee in San Francisco.
-The latter event needs some support to make it possible. Two other fat-related projects that could use your support: the Fired Fat Girl Travel Fund, and the Fat Nutritionist’s goal of becoming a radical dietician. (How messed-up is it that becoming a dietician requires a more-than-full-time, nine-month-long unpaid internship? Michelle shouldn’t have to turn to the internet to be able to pursue her chosen career.)
Read Gabourey Sidibe’s wonderful speech from the Ms. Foundation Gala. Love her!
-Lesley writes about the awesomeness that is the Adipositivity Project.
-Lonie takes on the myth that when you accept your body and stop trying to lose weight, you’ll lose weight.
-I love this way of looking at stretch marks.
Fat acceptance, like Batman, has no limits.

Bellydancing to Adele = awesome.
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The Big Thrifty is tomorrow!

Hey fellow Bostonian fatshionistas, just a reminder that The Big Thrifty is tomorrow! The Thicky Chicky will have a pop-up shop, and there will be yoga, bellydancing, and burlesque classes, among other awesomeness–see the Facebook page for all the information. Which reminds me that I never got around to posting pictures from the fat-pos day of movement that the Big Thrifty hosted last year, so, here they are! The pictures are from the event’s Facebook page, used with permission.

The day included bellydance, yoga, self-defense, a cupcake break, and a mini-clothing swap. Also, I couldn’t help doing a few cartwheels when I saw the mats. 🙂

doing cartwheels on blue mats

group of women doing bellydance stretches

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OOTD: Letting my inner child out at the Boston Grown-Ups Museum

woman standing in front of fort point channel wearing pink and rainbow colorful outfit

Have I ever mentioned that I love Boston? Seriously, this town is pretty awesome. We have stuff like the Boston Grown-Ups Museum, where the Children’s Museum opens up for an adult-only night. I was so excited when I heard about it–I would finally get the chance to climb the three-story rope structure!

rope climbing structure at the boston children's museum

It turned out that the structure was full of small spaces that I could barely fit through (almost as if it were designed for kids or something). Between that and the large number of people trying to fit through it at once, I started feeling claustrophobic and had to get out pretty quickly–but at least I went in it, which is still pretty awesome. Continue reading