Sunday links, 5/3/15

pink tulip display

Baltimore/#BlackLivesMatter
-Thank God: Six police officers to be criminally charged in Freddie Gray’s death.
Meet Marilyn Mosby, the badass prosecutor fighting for justice in Baltimore.
-This is a really comprehensive and useful post: Everything we know about Freddie Gray and the Baltimore Uprising and how you can help.
Baltimore Uprising is a central space for information that can be updated in real time.
Baltimore’s failure is rooted in decisions that were made 100 years ago.
Baltimore been burning.
-Jessica Williams as Effie Trinket in Baltimore on The Daily Show = brilliant.
The economic devastation fueling the anger in Baltimore.
-“When protests and riots broke out against oppressive regimes in Egypt, Tunisia, Libya, and Yemen as part of the Arab Spring, Americans cheered.”
Nonviolence as compliance.
-Cartoon: great moments in peaceful protest history.
-“Economic disruption has always impacted political decisions. That was the Boston Tea Party, right?”
-The parallels between Baltimore and Mexico: “On both sides of the border, the absence of any sane, humane, industrial or rural policy has created concentrations of dispensable peoples.”
The hideous white hypocrisy behind the Baltimore “Hero Mom” hype: how clueless media applause excuses police brutality.
Black America’s Baltimore schism: why the Freddie Gray tragedy demands serious soul-searching.
-Poem of the week: A Small Needful Fact by Ross Gay. (Note: the font is very light, so it’s easier to read if you highlight it.)
Where my girls at: meet two of Ferguson’s black queer activists.
Black Lives Matter protesters in NYC stock Forever 21 with “Never 21” t-shirts.

Fat Acceptance
The fallacy of “if you really liked yourself, other people’s opinions wouldn’t matter.”
Fat by choice: happy and healthy at the intersections of size and mental health.
I’ll take up all the damn space I want.
-A reminder of why I do fat activism: When they say “war on obesity,” I hear “casualties.” FA isn’t just about body image or self-esteem, although those are important. It’s about fighting a culture of fatphobia that literally kills and maims people.
I thought I was over my body image issues until I got diabetes.
Colorado preschool literally takes candy from a baby.

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Sunday links, 3/29/15

Saw this great poem on the T on my way to work. It reads: This Is Just To Say, after William Carlos Williams, by Rachel Wiley This is Just to Say/I have eaten/the beauty standards/that were in/the icebox/and which you were probably/clinging to/for profit/Forgive me/They were ridiculous/so binding/and so cold.

Saw this great poem on the T on my way to work. It reads:
This Is Just To Say, after William Carlos Williams, by Rachel Wiley
This is Just to Say/I have eaten/the beauty standards/that were in/the icebox/and which you were probably/clinging to/for profit/Forgive me/They were ridiculous/so binding/and so cold.

Fa(t)shion
Meet the internet’s goth body-positive princess!
Top 10 weirdo-babe plus size shops.
-These 50 Lindy Bop dresses are gorgeous. I especially love #s 1, 5, and 7.
#DropThePlus campaign by Stefania Ferrario and Ajay Rochester ignites social media–but is it invalidating to actual plus size women?
11 Lakme Fashion Week looks that will inspire your spring wardrobe.
6 bloggers wearing gorgeous floral dresses from Igigi.
-My new favorite shop: Asunder, which makes gothy, witchy, Victorian-inspired jewelry.
Which ’90s jewelry trends are primed for a comeback?

Fat Acceptance
How “obesity” became a disease.
The trouble with before-and-after pictures.
Are there fat Asians? Yes, I’m one of them.
-I’m looking forward to Susan Greenhalgh’s upcoming book Fat Talk Nation: The Human Costs of America’s War on Fat.
-Marilyn Wann has started Hank’s Gab Café, a “fat-positive place for people of all sizes and descriptions.”
-If you can, help out Rob, a man who is suffering a health crisis because his doctors spend years blaming his symptoms on his size rather than treating them.

Saw this pinkish-purple SUV on my trip to the Cape last week. If I ever get a car, it will be this color.

Saw this pinkish-purple SUV on my trip to the Cape last week. If I ever get a car, it will be this color.

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Fatshion February, day 14: Valentine’s edition–and exciting news!

I can’t hold it in any longer, so here it is: Steve and I are engaged! He proposed on Valentine’s Day in Central Park, at the top of a CASTLE.

Yes, there is a castle in Central Park. We had been to it two years ago–you can see the picture here–and decided to go up it again while wandering around. And then, after we had someone take the following picture of us, and after Steve took a few outfit pictures of me, he asked me to marry him! Eeeeeeeeee!

me and steve at top of belvedere castle in central park

After descending from the castle, we continued to walk around Central Park, where we saw an incredibly talented singing group and opera singer performing, and then came across an ice festival. It was all so serendipitous and romantic.

me and steve with an ice sculpture shaped like a snowflake

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Sunday links, 12/7/14

Thursday night's protest on the Boston Common.

Thursday night’s protest on the Boston Common.

Eric Garner/Mike Brown/#BlackLivesMatter
(I know this is an overwhelming amount of links, but 1.) this shit is important and 2.) there’s been so much necessary and powerful writing, I couldn’t pick just a few pieces.)
Can you breathe? Reflections on non-indictment, activism, and black life.
White America’s scary delusion: why its sense of black humanity is so skewed.
-This is painfully true, and be forewarned that the painting at the end of the post might make you cry: The 10 stages of what happens when there’s injustice against black people.
-Katherine Cross writes about why she was not surprised by the Eric Garner decision, as a trans woman of color who has seen her sisters regularly face brutality from the NYPD.
Meet the BART-stopping woman behind “Black Lives Matter.”
This country needs a truth and reconciliation process on violence against African Americans–right now.
-Another incredibly fucked-up decision: charges were dropped against the police officer who shot 7-year old Aiyana Stanley-Jones while she slept in her own home.
-In a rare example of someone (although not a cop) being held accountable for killing a black person, Renisha McBride’s killer was found guilty of murder.
-“Twelve years after getting my Vassar College faculty ID, I sit here and know that the nation can’t structurally and emotionally assault black kids and think they’re going to turn out OK.”
This stops today: seeking strategies to end discriminatory policing. A key point: “support [solutions] that take power and money away from the cops, and those that give power to the people.”
Police “reforms” you should always oppose. Likewise: Body cameras won’t stop police brutality, and Eric Garner is only one of several reasons why.
-An important analysis of public space and power: After Ferguson, we have to ask: who owns the streets?

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It just never ends.

"I can't breathe." - Eric Garner's last words, illustrated by Shirin Barghi (source)

“I can’t breathe.” – Eric Garner’s last words, illustrated by Shirin Barghi (source)

Last night, a grand jury declined to indict Daniel Pantaleo, the NYPD officer who choked Eric Garner to death.

I don’t have words.

But I follow a lot of brilliant and thoughtful people on Twitter, so, read their reactions.

Here in Boston, there will be a protest tonight at the tree lighting on the Common. If you live elsewhere, check the Ferguson Response Tumblr to find an action in your area.

Now, because all of the news lately has been so intensely horrifying and painful, here are some snuggling puppies:

Sunday links, 7/6/14

chocolate lab puppy sitting on the grass

Charlie, a tiny chocolate lab puppy I met last week (I know it’s not the best picture of him, but it was hard to get him to stay still!)

Fa(t)shion
-I am so excited for Nicolette Mason’s collaboration with ModCloth. How amazing is that pink coat, and the teal dress, and the pink polka dot dress, and the semi-sheer black tulle skirt…
-If you’re in Detroit, check out the Detroit Fatshion Exchange.
What pastel hair means for women of color.

Fat Acceptance
-Exciting news: the Fat Activism Conference, organized by Ragen Chastain and Jeannette DePatie, will be taking place in August. It’s all online, so people from any location can attend. There’s an amazing lineup of speakers and topics, and even though I’m not usually into online conferences, I am super-psyched for this.
-I so wish I could have read this in high school: Why being over 300 pounds isn’t the end of the world.
-Check out the new Tumblr Trans Fatties Unite.
-Taylor writes about a workshop on fat-shaming and fat acceptance that she gave to girls at her summer camp (which, btw, sounds like an amazing camp–it focuses on empowering girls through economic and environmental justice).
-Trolls sometimes claim that Ragen starts wheezing after walking short distances or uses a mobility scooter. She responds, “So what if I do?”
Fat and sparkling: a YES to the body.
-Virgie interviews TaMeicka Clear, a body-positive life coach.
-Carol Rossetti’s body-positive illustrations are amazing.
-Marilyn writes about the New York Times’ decision to publish responses to that ugly fat-shaming letter….which were full of more fat-shame, and completely lacking the fat-pos/HAES perspective. *sigh*

The video quality isn’t great, but I can’t not share fat women dancing to Janelle Monae’s “Q.U.E.E.N.”

Jobs and the Economy
Who’s responsible for the moral compass of the new economy?
For the new economy movement to succeed, it must be led by those for whom the mainstream economy has never worked.
Mourn the fall of the mall.

Everything Else
-A photography exhibit explores what femme looks like.
Going without water in Detroit.
-Kate Harding’s analysis of the Supreme Court’s recent decisions is spot-on. (And that’s all I’m going to post about the SCOTUS’ streak of suckiness, because ARGGHHH.)
Penned in: letters reveal the lives of transgender women in prison.
Border crossing is a verb.
-I agree so much with this way of looking at activism: The danger of fetishizing revolution.
30 bisexual women discuss their long-term relationships with men.
“Enjoy your houseful of cats”: on being an asexual woman.
Stop analyzing your single friends.

Lily Allen’s new music video about online trolls is great (and how awesome is her outfit?)

Sunday links, 6/29/14

husky puppy with its tongue hanging out and eyes closed, wearing pink harness

A tiny, sleepy husky puppy I met while waiting in line for ice cream at my friend’s birthday party. 🙂

Congratulations to my friends Liz and Ian who are getting married today! (Yes, I scheduled this post in advance.)

Fa(t)shion
-Re/Dress interviews Shawna of Chubby Cartwheels, whose designs they are now carrying.
A new plus size fashion magazine launches in South Korea.
-It’s ModCloth’s one-year anniversary of carrying plus sizes, and they have run a survey of their plus size customers. Marie read the survey results and wondered, Why is trendy plus size fashion so rare, especially when it’s proven extremely effective? In non-fatshion-related but adorable ModCloth news, check out this golden retriever who works in their office. So jealous!
-Australian brand City Chic will be opening a few stores in the US this fall. The initial stores will be in California, but I hope they will expand to other areas soon.
Georgette, Sandra, and Gaelle post some highlights from New York Full Figured Fashion Week 2014. I would love to go someday!
How do I dress like a grown-up, androgynously?
100 most stylish DapperQs of 2014.
A roundup of queer wedding style, and even more inspiration: the amazing amazing blush pink tulle gown and pink and white suit of this couple. (Also, as a fellow Jew, I love seeing them put their own spin on Jewish wedding traditions, like the breaking of a wineglass–it’s traditionally done by the groom, but here both brides are doing it.)
-Leah rounds up gorgeous retro floral dresses from Lady V London.They come in sizes UK 14-32 (US 10-28), and I kind of want them all.
-These 1920’s style prom outfits made from duct tape are amazing.
-Oaklanders, get ready for the Cupcakes and Muffintops fatshion extravaganza!
-Portlanders, check out Summer Strut: A Fat Fashion Show.
-Sheri rounds up 18 plus size white dresses. I especially like #s 3 and 7.

Ragen’s More Cabaret being awesome:

Fat Acceptance
-Two great posts: Is staying thin easy? It doesn’t matter and Is being thin healthy? It doesn’t matter.
-Charlotte describes her experiences at the Allied Media Conference, and Amanda posts a speech she gave there.
Scientists say they may have underestimated fat hatred. I say, “yup!”
-Why is there always so much fat-pos awesomeness on the West Coast? If you’re lucky enough to live in Portland, check out the first Chunky Dunk of 2014 and Jelly Roll: a body positive dance party!
-Musings on unruly bodies.
Because it’s my body.
21 body positive tattoos + inspiration.
-On fat gay pride.
-Lindy tried to eat like Gwyneth Paltrow for a week, and reflects on how it felt to do that as a fat person.
-It makes me happy that this chocolate Venus of Willendorf exists.
-Ragen takes apart what’s wrong with the saying, “It’s ok to be fat, as long as you’re healthy.”

Everything Else
-Particularly appropriate for this weekend: Why do we care about weddings? I just finished reading Jen Doll’s book, and it’s really good.
-Reflections on the future of coming out.
-”We are organically making the defiant and joyful worlds that cannot be defined and will be sustained.”
I was a teenage Wolverwine: on superheroes and disability.
The Jews of Williamsburg: reflections on the smallness of New York, creating your own weird and magical world, and how different worlds overlap.
-I love this art project of toys saying things to other toys.
-This is a great idea: San Francisco Mission District tenants turning Victorian home into a co-op to avoid Ellis Act eviction.
May we all pursue happiness. #Pride
-Gorgeous images of Iceland in winter.

More awesome fat dancing!

OOTD: Easter bunnies

I have a million outfit posts I need to catch up on, so I’m going to start with the most recent one. This is what I wore for Easter egg-hunting and frolicking with my friends in our local park, which was wonderfully silly and fun.

At first, I put together a pastel outfit, but I just wasn’t feeling it, so I changed into yoga pants and my killer bunny shirt. Steve was on the same wavelength, and wore his TARDIS bunnies shirt (which I got for him as a holiday present last year).

outfit with killer bunny t-shirt, tiny hat, and skull cardigan

T-shirt: TeeTurtle, cardigan: Torrid via eBay, necklace: eBay, earrings: clothing swap, tiny hat: Claire’s, yoga pants: Target

couple wearing matching cute bunny t-shirts

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Friday links, 1/4/13

Delicious pomegranate chocolate cupcakes that a friend made

Fat Activism
In news we already knew, “overweight” people have a lower risk of mortality than “normal weight” ones. Paul Campos and Marilyn Wann both have great responses.
-Ragen reviews her successes of 2012, and reveals a new project.
-Tori’s new year resolution: to like food.
-Hanne Blank interviews Virgie Tovar, author of Hot & Heavy.
-Haley of Redefining Body Image reflects on how her great-grandmother taught her to be fat and fabulous.

Fa(t)shion
-Chubstr interviews Reah Norman, the Executive Fashion Director for PLUS Model Magazine.
-Buttercup has a great post about saying no to fashion rules–and check out her badass squirrel sweater!
Dani and Ms. Red Kitty are both undertaking no-buying wardrobe challenges. I really like the point that one of the commenters on the latter post made:

I really think I have a “thing” about clothes just because of how… unavailable clothing that I liked used to be. Up until the last couple of years it was very hard to find things, so I sort of have a “buy now or you’ll never have it” attitude. Really have to be careful, step back, and think about whether I need that item or will I ever wear it.

This is so true. And even though more clothing is now available in plus sizes, it’s still more expensive than straight-sized clothing–and it’s hard to find anything at thrift stores–so it’s easy to end up spending too much money.

Everything Else
Guidelines for enjoying other cultures without appropriating them.
-A beautiful story about an amazing woman: What my mother taught me about feminism and fear.
On behalf of Willow Smith and girls like her, shut up.
-It may be a bit late for linking to holiday gift guides, but I like this list of media made by queer people of color.
-I like Aoife’s take on the “friend zone.”
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