Because, why not?
10. Argyle and tulle
2012 was a pretty big year for Tutus and Tiny Hats, since it’s the year I started it.
I started in mid-June, which makes the blog just about half a year old. And it’s been a pretty awesome half a year. I’ve made connections around the blog-o-sphere, “met” some really cool people, and taken part in a lot of interesting conversations.
Before I started blogging, I was mostly a lurker, so it’s been exciting to get into the thick of it all. To feel like a real part of the fat-o-sphere, not just someone watching from the outside.
A big thank-you to all my readers, followers, and commenters for being awesome. 🙂
Without any further ado, here are my top ten posts of the year: Continue reading
A little while ago, I talked about how it’s problematic that the bulk of online FA thinking is happening in XOJane, a non-fat-friendly space. I know there has been movement toward creating and improving FA spaces: Redefining Body Image has added Facebook comments (I’d prefer Disqus, but any comments are better than none!), and Issa is working on an awesome project that I can’t tell you about yet.
But the bulk of FA work is still going on at XOJane. And today I got a reminder of how that isn’t always good.
I wrote what I thought was an innocuous response to a question in an FA-related thread. Not a minute later, I got an angry response accusing me of defending a fat-hating troll.
I’m not going to lie, that hurts. It hurts to be misread. It hurts to be accused of saying something I would never, ever say.
I’ve gone over what I wrote, and I still can’t figure out how it could be interpreted that way. I just don’t see it.
But I do understand that sometimes miscommunications happen. They happen in real life, and they can happen even more easily on the internet.
Especially in non-FA spaces. Not that any online (or real-life space) is 100% miscommunication-free, but I think such misreadings are more likely to happen in a space that isn’t explicitly fat-friendly. There are plenty of fat-hating comments on XOJane, and people are understandably on guard, which can sometimes lead to seeing fat hatred where it really, really isn’t there.
Whereas in a fat-friendly space, fat-hating comments wouldn’t make it through moderation in the first place. People would be much more likely to assume good faith on the part of other commenters. There wouldn’t be this kneejerk defensiveness that’s warranted nine times out of ten, but misplaced and hurtful the tenth time.
I just want a place to talk with other fierce fatties, free from both people who think fat is bad and people who somehow assume I think fat is bad.
I was so excited to get my hands on a pair of Domino Dollhouse’s galactic-print leggings. I originally ordered them in a 2x when they first came out, but that turned out to be too big, so I had to exchange them for a 1x–and then wait for them to come back in stock. My pair finally arrived on Christmas Eve, so it felt like a present.
They’re super-comfy, and I love how they look on me, so I’ve already worn them multiple times. Here’s my first outfit–another one will be coming soon!
Shirt: Old Navy, jacket: Kohl’s, leggings: Domino Dollhouse, boots: Target, bow: Crown & Glory, necklace: Claire’s, rainbow bangle and earrings: So Good, spike wristband: Hot Topic, black and silver bangles: Deb and Torrid
This year there seemed to be fewer holiday parties than usual, but still, much merriment was had.
My friend Red topped her Christmas tree with a Star of David, since most of her roommates are Jewish. 🙂
I hope you all have been enjoying the holidays, and have fun things planned for New Year’s! Steve and I will be going to a small dinner party, which should be fun. It’s hard to believe it’s already almost 2013–I still remember when 2000 seemed futuristic.
-Alison has a great True Fashionista year end recap. My favorites are Denisio, Desiree, and Meagan.
-Similarly, Alissa has a roundup of 2012’s Stylish Curves of the Day.
–100 coolest Harajuku looks of 2012, straight from Tokyo.
–Burning Man gets dressed up.
–Going rogue: on the cultural implications of “alternative” beauty.
-I love this piece about pillbox hats. I feel similarly about fascinators, and now I’m tempted to branch out. Also, I didn’t know you could pin pillbox hats on with bobby pins, which is really good to know.
-On a similarly hat-related note: In defense of the “nice guy” fedora. I really like this piece as well. I love fedoras on both men and women, and I hate how they’ve become a symbol of jackassery. I especially agree with this comment:
[A] few years ago and ongoing, black plastic glasses (which I wear because they are so super-cheap. $35 bucks at wal-mart, jabronis!) were the thing to hate because they were hipsterish.
Now it’s fedoras.
Why are we picking arbitrary clothing items and giving them inalienable human characteristics? Why are clothing items getting personified?
WHATEVER! It sort of makes me want to get a fedora with tiny plastic black-framed glasses pinned all over it.
–Debunking the myth that there were no fat people until recently.
–Fat and jolly? Not so much.
–Some jerks want to put Santa Claus on a diet “for the children.”
Happy day-after-Christmas, for those who celebrate it (or day-after-Movies-and-Chinese-Day, for my fellow Jews). 🙂
There’s been lots of amazing and inspiring fa(t)shion around the internets lately.
This look is just whoaaaaa. I’ve actually been eyeing that Forever 21+ blazer forever–if it’s still available next time I have money, I’m totally getting it. Also, how amazing is that blue lipstick?!
Dudes wearing glitter is awesome and needs to happen more often.