I can’t hold it in any longer, so here it is: Steve and I are engaged! He proposed on Valentine’s Day in Central Park, at the top of a CASTLE.
Yes, there is a castle in Central Park. We had been to it two years ago–you can see the picture here–and decided to go up it again while wandering around. And then, after we had someone take the following picture of us, and after Steve took a few outfit pictures of me, he asked me to marry him! Eeeeeeeeee!
After descending from the castle, we continued to walk around Central Park, where we saw an incredibly talented singing group and opera singer performing, and then came across an ice festival. It was all so serendipitous and romantic.
Valentine’s Day was really, really hard. Not for the typical reasons that people struggle with the holiday (and that I’ve dealt with in the past), but because it was my surprise! last day of work. Yes, it was shitty timing to have my last day on a holiday that’s supposed to be all about love, flowers, chocolate, and wearing pink.
But it was also a day full of love: both the traditional romantic kind, and the kind I got from my coworkers. I can’t even write this post without crying, because they’re wonderful and I miss them.
Top: Old Navy, tutu and socks (and possibly headband?): Target, leggings: American Apparel, shoes: Naot (I wore sneakers to work, but changed for my outfit pics), necklace: So Good, earrings: Betsey Johnson via eBay
Ok, I’m finally starting to catch up on my outfit posts from the past week. (I still have a bunch of outfits from before February, too…I’ll get to those eventually.) This is what I wore for an early Valentine’s Day dinner with Steve. We had originally planned to go out on the 13th to beat the V-Day crowds, but due to a snowstorm, we pushed it a day earlier. This ended up working really well, since I got to enjoy our dinner without the knowledge of my job’s impending end hanging over me.
Dress: H&M (straight size L), teggings: Re/Dress, boots: Target, jacket: Torrid via clothing swap, earrings: Claire’s?, flower crown: Crown & Glory, necklace: my V-day present from Steve last year, from Karen Kavett for DFTBA Records, bracelets: Deb Shops, Torrid, and Macy’s
This dress is one of the very, very few straight size items I own. It’s an L from H&M, and it’s quite tight–but the moment I saw it in the store, I was determined to make it fit. Luckily, it’s very stretchy (unlike most of the pretty straight-sized things in H&M, sigh…it was so depressing to see how varied and colorful the straight size options were compared to the plus size ones. So depressing that I’ve pretty much vowed never to set foot in that store again).
I’m neither single nor Floridian, but I’m so happy this exists. Image credit: Ken Spivey
I’ve always had a conflicted relationship with Valentine’s Day. On one hand, how could I hate a pink-and-red holiday that revolves around chocolate-worship? On the other hand, for the many many years I was single, it was just another reminder of what I wanted and hadn’t yet found.
Now I have a relationship, and it’s awesome. I’m happy for the opportunity to celebrate it, but I also want to keep in mind that this holiday can be hard for a lot of people.
For anyone who’s single and doesn’t want to be, there’s one post I can’t recommend enough: Kate Harding’s On Dumb Luck. I wish it were required reading for everyone, ever.
Single folks, here’s what I know: you are exactly what someone is looking for, and that someone is exactly what you’re looking for. You just don’t have a damned bit of control over when or where you’ll stumble across each other. That sucks a hundred kinds of ass. But you don’t have to be prettier. You don’t have to be better. You don’t even have to be patient, if you don’t feel like it. You just have to be.
Big-ass hat? Hell yes. (Scan of an old Mode Magazine page from Shapely Prose.)
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–An eco-friendly dress competition in time for awards season.
-I really like this activism idea!
–Opening Frida’s closet: an exhibition of Kahlo’s clothing reveals fierce feminism. I would love, love, love to be able to see this exhibit.
–Size 2 through 18: me and my pants take a walk down memory lane.
-A photoset of badass black goths.
–There’s actually cute plus size clothing at JC Penney. Who knew?
–A good article on fatshion, including its radical aspects, from the Daily Dot.
-One blogger’s goal for Fatshion February: to restyle and reuse.
-Amazing photos from a fashion museum in London.
–A history of sequins, from King Tut to the King of Pop.
-I never stop being inspired by the clothing on wedding blogs. This groom’s embroidered suit is nothing short of amazing!
–On fatphobia within the Goth subculture.
–I’m not pregnant, I’m fat.
-Check out Rachele’s free How To Be a Fat Bitch e-course!
-On fat dating.
-If you needed any more evidence that fat hatred harms and kills, here it is.
–MTV interviews Virgie Tovar.
–The body I have.
–Fat, sex, and politics (not necessarily in that order).
-If you’re in Toronto, you can meet up with awesome fat activist Marilyn Wann!
-It’s disappointing to see Ellen DeGeneres promoting fat shame.
-Fat people are having our reproductive rights threatened.
-Good for NJ Governor Chris Christie for standing up for himself after a former White House doctor said she worries about him dying in office.