Outfit August, day 15: peachy keen

The nice thing about owning lots of shiny things is that when you’re in a hurry and digging through the clothing and accessories strewn all over your floor, you can grab a few random shiny, neutral-ish items and look like you planned your outfit in advance.

plus size outfit black pants and peach top with roses

Top and earrings: Forever 21, pants: Target, necklace: clothing swap, flower: H&M, bracelets: Deb, shoes: Clarks

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Outfit August day 4

When I first saw this dress at a clothing swap, I almost didn’t pick it up because it was so similar to this one that I already had. But then I decided to give it a try anyway, and I’m glad I did. It’s less fancy than the other one but still nice, so it makes a good everyday work dress.

plus size outfit black and beige striped dress

Dress: Connected Woman via clothing swap, necklace: Forever 21, bracelets: Deb, earrings: Faces, shoes: Clark’s (yeah, I don’t know why I didn’t wear black sandals with this…)

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OOTD: A spring wedding

headshot of glam pink, black, and beige outfit with pink leather hairbow

This is what I wore to my cousin’s wedding over Memorial Day weekend. I spent a lot of time trying to find something more spring-y/floral/frothy/floaty, but was ultimately unsuccessful. I even bought a custom-made mauve tutu that I was hoping to wear over a black dress, but it ended up being so poofy that there was no way I could wear it without knocking over everything around me. (It’s still awesome, though–I will definitely wear it sometime when I go to an event with more space to move around.) So I went with this, which was my backup dress, and it ended up working out really well.

Dress: Macy’s, shoes: Clarks, clutch: eBay, rose bangle: H&M, rhinestone wristband: So Good, silver rose ring: ancient, pink rose statement ring: The Tiny Teapot, necklace, earrings, and hair bow: Forever 21

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The complex ethics of fa(t)shion blogging

Fatshion: the intersection of revolution and glitter.

Through another one of Sal’s link round-ups, I found this thoughtful post on the ethics of fashion blogging.

RK makes really good points, but I have some thoughts that complicate the matter–especially when it comes to fatshion.

1.) Fatshion is radical. It’s about taking up space, showing the world that fat women (and men) can have fun with fashion too. That we don’t have to wear muumuus, unless we want to. That we won’t put up with shitty clothing options from major retailers like Lane Bryant. That we don’t believe the right to self-expression should end at a size 14.

Fatshion is about inspiring people never thought they could dress themselves in a fun and creative way. It’s about inspiring people who used to think they were only allowed to wear black, or vertical stripes, or small prints. It’s a way of building community, both in the blog-o-sphere and in physical spaces like plus size boutiques, pop up stores, and clothing swaps.

Fatshion, for many people, contributes to the process of loving their bodies–although there are many other ways to do so, and neither fatshion nor loving your body should be mandatory.

2.) Enjoying compliments on your style is not an inherently bad thing, especially if you’re also complimenting others. Sure, it can get out of hand if it becomes your sole motivation, and then it’s a good idea to step back a bit.

But for fat people, compliments aren’t just good selfish fun. They’re an antidote to the ridiculous amount of negative messages we receive every day.

I’m lucky in that I’ve never gotten fat-related insults from strangers. I’ve never been mooed at, or called a fat ugly bitch from a moving car, or judged on my shopping cart contents. But these are all things that have happened to other women in the fat-o-sphere. And despite my luck at dodging such explicit insults–and in fact getting regular compliments from strangers on everything from my glitter bows to my dark purple skinny corduroys–I still have to deal with something like 386,170 fat-negative messages a year from the media.
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Weekly wishlist 9/11/12

This top is steampunktacular. It only goes up to 1X(18-20), and I’m not sure whether that would fit me, but I hope it would. I need more steampunk in my life.

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