I’ve been seeing a lot of hype for this song as the “body-positive anthem of the summer,” and my feelings about it are pretty mixed. First off, the song is fun and catchy, and I love the pastel outfits and set design. So many flower crowns! So much tulle! It’s incredibly aesthetically appealing.
I think it’s great that there’s a fat guy dancing, even doing a split near the end of the video–hell yes for fat athleticism!–but I wish there was even one genuinely fat woman featured. The singer and her backup dancers are only slightly larger than the media ideal, maybe in-betweenies at most. It’s just one of many, many “body-positive” projects that focus on smaller fat or not-even-fat women, and I’m so over that.
I’m also so over the song’s heteronormative focus on appealing to men, with lines like, “Yeah, my momma she told me don’t worry about your size/She says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at night.” Really? In 2014, we’re still supposed to base our self-esteem on what men (supposedly) like? And the reference to “skinny bitches,” sigh.
Personally, my body-positive anthem will always be GabiFresh’s #everyBODYisflawless.
In honor of my birthday, which is coming up tomorrow–can you believe I’m going to be 28?!–I’ve put together a compilation of things I’d love to get if a magical fairy fatmother showed up waving her wand at my front door.
If I actually had a fairy fatmother, the first thing I’d ask for would be a stable, satisfying job with good pay and benefits–but pretty things are much more fun to fantasize about.
You can click each image to go to the Polyvore set, which has the details.
Cats, dogs, roses, rainbows…some things really haven’t changed in the last twenty years.
I SO want these Nirvana and Courtney Love dresses from Vera’s Eye Candy
, which I found through Betties N Brimstone
–who had a dress custom-made in her size. Nirvana and Hole were a big part of my adolescent years, and I’d love to be able to wear that history on my body.
Another thing I would love to have, but that Polyvore wouldn’t let me clip, is a custom illustration by Natalie Perkins. Here are a few of my favorites that she’s drawn so far (via FLI’s Facebook page)–aren’t they gorgeous?
To be honest, reading the blogs of straight-sized people with outrageous style often makes me sad: they have so many wild/interesting/unusual options available to them that don’t exist, or are extremely rare, in plus sizes. It’s really frustrating, but there are a few bloggers who I can’t help loving anyway.
Girl with the Flower, who I just discovered, is now one of them.
HOLY SHIT her outfits are amazing, aren’t they? She makes her own flower crowns and accessories–which she sells on Etsy–and shares my fascination with googly eyes.
I hope that someday I can walk into a thrift store and buy anything like the pieces she wears. But in the meantime, I’ll just enjoy the sartorial eye candy.
This year there seemed to be fewer holiday parties than usual, but still, much merriment was had.
My friend Red topped her Christmas tree with a Star of David, since most of her roommates are Jewish. 🙂
This lady has the most amazing style ever. Make sure to click through and look at her other outfits!
Hello Kitty + gold bow + pink cardi = awesome.
-The Fat Nutritionist has a lovely post of advice on dealing with the holidays.
–It’s not because I’m fat.
–This New Moon article about food and eating is amazing. I hope it reaches many, many girls.
–The end of fat people: goodbye, Hostess.
-Lesley writes movingly about her preteen eating disordered years.
-A lovely piece–complete with adorable baby pictures!– by a mother who found that she could no longer hate her chin once she saw the same feature on her daughter.
–A new study shows that, despite the growing number of fatshion bloggers, mainstream companies have not responded by making more plus-size clothes. Although that’s disappointing, I agree with Nicolette Mason’s quote in the article. She says that the independent plus-size marketplace is thriving, and gives many examples of indie plus-size lines. Also, how cool is it that there’s a study called “Frustrated Fatshionistas: An Institutional Theory Perspective on Consumer Quests for Greater Choice in Mainstream Markets?”
-Threadless’ TARDamask shirt is back in stock! They only have a few sizes available (and unfortunately no Men’s 2XL, which should fit me according to the size chart), but if you wear one of those sizes, check it out.
–These costumes are amazing.
-Who knew that Land’s End made some nice plus size clothing, including this lovely sequined skirt?
–The real cost of your clothing.
–Smart internet shopping for style lovers.
-This plus size Australian clothing swap sounds like so much fun!
–Tuesday was Transgender Day of Remembrance, which should be a day of action for cisgender people.
-Robert Reich, the former Secretary of Labor under Clinton, is working on a film about inequality in the US. He’s amazing–I took a class with him in college, and he’s probably the best lecturer I’ve ever heard. He can make any concept understandable and fascinating, and he’s got a great sense of humor. The inequality in our society right now is a huge, huge issue, and I’m glad he’s trying to bring it to light. I highly recommend donating to his Kickstarter, or at least passing on the word.
-A must-read from Dahlia Lithwick: I didn’t come back to Jerusalem to be in a war.
–Cliff mocks the latest issue of Cosmo, which is as ridiculous as usual.
-A beautiful story by an adopted transwoman whose Korean birth mother gave her the courage to transition.
-A great comic from The Oatmeal about creating things for a living.
There’s no such thing as too much flower crown porn. So, for fun and inspiration, here are a few pictures of bloggers and models rocking their flower crowns.
I love how Natalie’s outfit matches her wallpaper!
This giant rose crown is possibly my favorite thing ever.
Fat girls shouldn’t wear horizontal stripes? Pshhh.