Sunday links, 8/3/14

black eyed susans and pink flowers behind white picket fence

But seriously…if you’re fat, you can still wear whatever you want.
-Help Elizabeth of CandyStrike get her clothing out to a major online retailer!
-Awesome pictures from Summer Strut, a plus-size runway show in Portland.
Land’s End introduces adorable new science t-shirts just for girls.
-How cute is Sprinkles Bake Shop, which sells dessert-themed goodies like a birthday cake headband and macaron coin purses, as well as actual dessert-related supplies?
-Emma is putting dudes in dresses and watching chaos unfold.
We don’t want your summer music festival fashion tips.

Fat Acceptance
So much yes to this: I am not all about that bass: deconstructing the summer’s feel-good, body-positive hit. I wrote about “All About That Bass” a while back, but Jenny’s analysis is much more in-depth, and superbly breaks down the many different types of fail in the video. (And yes, I’m still sad that a video with such a catchy tune and such a gorgeous pastel aesthetic is full of so much race-, gender-, and size-fail.)
-Syruckus writes about why fat acceptance matters to him as a fat man.
-Ragen shares strategies for dealing with fat-phobia in the workplace.
-I love seeing pictures of two awesome fat activists meeting each other.
Making Fat Ends Meet is a new Facebook group for poor and working-class fat people.
-Awesomeness: vandals trash plastic surgeon’s anti-muffin top billboard in Michigan.
What they never consider when they link fatness with health problems.
-Oaklanders, checked out HAES’d and Confused, a series of events examining social justice within the context of the HAES model. There’s also a phone-in option for non-locals to participate.

Dear Nick Kristof, your Palestinian Gandhis are already here.
Rays of hope in Gaza: 13 Israeli and Palestinian groups building peace.
Jews around the world are facing attacks as the crisis escalates in Gaza. This is scary as hell, and it makes me so angry/sad/ARGH that so many people seem to think the answer to hatred and violence is more hatred and violence.
If Israel calls to tell me they will bomb my house, what should I take with me as I run for my life?
Life under fire in Gaza: the diary of a Palestinian.
-There are just no words for how heartbreaking this story is. No words.
The awful decisions I’ve made to protect my Palestinian children from this war.
Gaza myths and facts: what American Jewish leaders won’t tell you.
Threats of sanctions worked against Israel in 1956 – and they can work again. Continue reading

Femininity-bashing? No thank you.

I don’t usually read blogs about dressing for corporate jobs–luckily, most of my work experience has been in government and higher education administration, which tend to have less strict dress codes. But when I came across a link to a post titled “When Do Girly Clothes Become Unprofessional?” on Corporette, I couldn’t stop myself from clicking through, even though I knew it would piss me off.

And piss me off it did.

Some of the advice is good, like keeping the office culture in mind when picking outfits. But the concept that femininity = childishness/incompetence/lack of professionalism just makes me so angry.

I hate the idea that it’s ok to take someone less seriously because they wear bows in non-sedate colors or lacy headbands or–heaven forbid–vintage dresses.

I understand that sometimes, women have to dress a certain way to be taken seriously at certain jobs, and I don’t have a problem with individual women dressing however they need to in order to succeed. I don’t even have a problem with them passing along practical advice on dressing for those types of workplaces–hell, we all make compromises in order to get by, and there’s no shame in that.

But I do have a problem with failing to critique the standards that posit masculinity as “professional” and femininity as “unprofessional.” I have a problem with passing them along as if they’re truth rather than a set of beliefs that are unfortunately still prevalent in some workplaces.

And I have a major problem with this double standard:

That said, it’s a bad idea to wear very girly things exclusively — Elle Woods was comical because she wore pink ALL THE TIME.  If you only wear one color and it’s bright pink, yes, there does seem something childlike about that to me.  (Yet, for some reason, wearing almost any other color exclusively just seems creative to me, perhaps because of this old NY Magazine article.)

Personally, I can’t imagine going permanently monochromatic–I love so many different colors! Limiting oneself to one color just seems so, well, limited. But the idea that it’s creative if that color is blue, but childish if that color is pink? Blehh. Just blehh.

I’m just so sick of the idea that women who like to wear “girly” things are somehow less mature, less smart, less worthy of respect.