Friday Links, 8/9/13

Mwahahaha! Taken by The Meanwhile Project at Figment Boston.

Fa(t)shion
-Erin has more ideas of things Gabourey Sidibe could have worn in Harper’s Bazaar.
–Tripp NYC has a few plus size items available online, and is working on more!
–Various exciting fatshion news, including H&M finally selling their clothes online in the US.
–Beth Ditto wears Gaultier for her Hawaii wedding, and looks amazing.
-There’s so much fatshion-spiration in Offbeat Bride’s plus size brides Pinterest board.

Fat Acceptance
–Virgie Tovar interviews Rachel, a fat-positive personal trainer.
–On the necessity for real-world fat communities.
-The book Fatropolis sounds amazing–it’s definitely going on my reading list.
–Unintentionally inspirational: the Lumpy Space Princess.
–Fat, fibromyalgia, and exercise.

Climate and Sustainability
–David Roberts wants to live in a baugruppe, and now I do too.
-A new study shows that today’s technology could be used to power the world with renewable energy–all that’s needed is the political will to do it.
-Bethany uses the Princess Bride as a metaphor for finding the tools to save the world.
–Like shopping at local businesses? Now you can invest in them, too.

Everything Else
–Immigration is a feminist issue–we need to treat it that way.
-Love this: Dear daughter, I hope you have some fucking awesome sex.
–Lady Gaga has a burqa problem. UGH.
-Sarah Kendzior exposes the economic forces behind the myth of “opting out.”
–The chronic pain PSA.
–Should feminists be critical of compulsory monogamy?
-Two great Captain Awkward posts on online dating and queer romance.
–5 tips for calling out transphobia.
–How to be an ally to Muslim women: an incomplete starter kit.
–Ann Giles’ husband transitioned during their marriage, and 17 years later they’re still in love.
–10 thoughts on mental illness, abuse, and survivors.
–Hugo Schwyzer and the consumption of redemption narratives.
-A really interesting essay on geek culture.
–Visible bodies: transgender narratives retold.
-A beautiful example of doing parenting right: we think he might be a boy.

What have you been reading/writing this week?

Online fat communities: where are we going?

A few recent conversations have got me thinking about the state of fat activist spaces on the internet today.

Unfortunately, a lot of the most interesting thinking in FA is happening in a space that’s not explicitly fat-positive: XOJane.

It comes closest to filling the gap left by the late, great Shapely Prose. Although there are a decent number of fat activist blogs out there, and even more personal blogs that sometimes write about FA, those aren’t quite communities the way Shapely Prose was. There’s a lot of FA work taking place on Tumblr, but most of the blogs don’t even have comments enabled, so only other Tumblr-ites can interact with them. And then there are communities that are fat-positive, but have a different overall focus, such as Shakesville and Captain Awkward.

My feelings about XOJane in general are…mixed. They publish a lot of great, thoughtful writing on everything from disability rights to living on food stamps. But they also publish a lot of poorly-written, inflammatory linkbait. And don’t even get me started on the whole Hugo Schwyzer debacle. (No, literally, don’t get me started. It was gross and I don’t want to think about it.)

It’s definitely possible to skip over the shitty stuff, especially if you stick to reading the regular authors you know are awesome: Lesley, Marianne, s.e., Kate Conway, Somer, anything Lindy West cross-posts from Jezebel…but not everyone wants to do that, nor should they have to. Some people don’t want to read the site at all after it published HS, and while I don’t feel that way myself, I can understand why they do.

And when it comes to FA, well. There are a lot of fat-positive pieces, both by fat-o-sphere fixtures Lesley and Marianne, and by other, less established authors.  There are important internal critiques like Natalie Perkins’ piece on the commercialization of fatshion blogging. And there’s a significant community of fat-positive commenters who both go deep into the nitty-gritty nuances, and joke about starting fat girl gangs a la West Side Story. (Read the thread starting here, and prepare to sing along!). There’s a definite sense of solidarity topped with rainbow sprinkles of humor.

BUT it’s impossible to avoid the reminders that this is not, actually, a fat-positive space.

Reading the comments on fat-related pieces can be frustrating. The majority of them are on board with fat acceptance, but there’s always one or two people who derail the whole thing with their trolling about the Dangers of Obesity. Depending on how many Sanity Watchers points you have to spare, it can be annoying, or it can be triggering.

Personally, I read the comments anyway, and try my best to skip over any derails. But sometimes I get sucked into reading them and wish I hadn’t.  And I can understand why some people don’t want to read the comments at all, which means they get left out of the discussion–and that really sucks.

What does it mean for a movement when its strongest voices are 1.) getting paid by a site that does some pretty shitty stuff in the name of page views and 2.) writing in a space that can’t be declared explicitly fat-positive?

What does it mean when a community takes root in a space that 1.) could disappear if it stops making a profit and 2.) contains a decent number of members opposed to that very community’s existence?

What does it mean when so many of our discussions are happening in a space that isn’t ours?

I don’t have answers, really. I don’t begrudge any of the XOJane authors what they do–and it seems like they have a lot of editorial freedom, which is awesome. I don’t begrudge anyone for not taking on the work of building a new Shapely Prose. Moderating a site like that must be exhausting.

But I do wonder about the path we’re heading down.

I wonder about how to forge a different path.