OOTD: Velvet for the holidays

Note: this dress was given to me by eShakti, but all opinions are my own. I only review items that I like and would have considered buying anyway, so don’t worry, I won’t try to sell you any random ugly things.

I’ve been drooling over so many velvet dresses this season, including this one from eShakti. So when they offered me a dress to review, I couldn’t help but pick it. Unfortunately, it was sold out in my first color choice of burgundy, but I love it in black too.

plus size black velvet puff sleeve dress

Dress: c/o eShakti, necklace and wristband: So Good, earrings: Domino Dollhouse, boots: Target, hair bow: Crown & Glory, rhinestone ring: ASOS Curve, bangles: Torrid, clutch: eBay

puff sleeve black velvet eshakti v-neck dress with buttons

What makes eShakti different from most plus size retailers is that, in addition to carrying sizes 0-36, they offer custom sizing for $7.50 per garment. So if your body is proportioned differently from the standard size chart–and really, most of ours are–you can have something made to fit your own measurements. You can also customize things like skirt length, sleeve length, neckline style, etc. Continue reading

#FatshionFebruary, day 24: potential wedding guest dress

I ordered this dress from eShakti as a potential candidate for wearing to my cousin’s wedding in May. Based on the sizing chart, I bought it in a size 24, which is one size larger than I wear in most brands–but it’s still too tight. Booo, weird and arbitrary clothing sizing. So I’m going to return it, but in the meantime I had to get some pictures, because I love how it looks on me.

It’s out of stock right now, but if/when it comes back I might order it in a 26, without sleeves (because the sleeves/shoulders are particularly tight, and might be too tight even in a larger size), and possibly with a different neckline. I do appreciate that eShakti gives so many customizing options, even though I’m annoyed at their sizing.

If it doesn’t come back into stock, I’ve got my eye on a few ModCloth dresses, and I also have this dress (which is, weirdly, a size 14–go figure) as a backup.

Dress: eShakti, jacket: Kohl’s, shoes: Naot (I took these pictures with my tripod, and realized afterwards that I cut off my feet in most of them…oops!), fascinator, wristband, and necklace: So Good, earrings: Faces, bangles: Deb and Torrid

I love dancing at weddings, so twirliness is an important quality to look for in potential wedding-guest dresses. This one definitely passes the test! 🙂

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On thin privilege and online shopping

The perils of buying clothing and bras online: way too much stuff to return.

I’ve been reading through Already Pretty’s archive of link roundups, and there’s some really interesting stuff.

This is a response to one of the posts Sal linked to, although unfortunately I can’t find it.  It was an ode to buying clothing online, written by a straight sized woman.

I kind of hate when women who don’t wear plus sizes talk about how much they love shopping online, while we fats don’t have much other choice.

As someone who usually wears a size 18-22, I do have a few real-life options–which is more than many larger people have, especially if they don’t live in or near a major city. But there are very few stores near me that are exclusively plus size. The Boston area does have a few (Lane Bryant, Avenue, and Ashley Stewart), but none are particularly easy to get to from where I live. There’s also H&M+, which has awesome stuff, although a much smaller selection than H&M’s straight sizes.

But most of the stores where I sometimes find clothing–Target, Marshall’s, thrift stores, etc.–have only a few items in my size. And their plus size selection is usually a lot less interesting than their straight sizes. So most of the time it’s just not worth it.

I know that shopping online is sometimes necessary for specific items like tutus, petticoats, and My Little Pony t-shirts. And if I wore straight sizes, I’d totally buy online from Topshop and Modcloth.

Online shopping does have its place. But depending on it sucks for many reasons:

1.) You have to pay for shipping and wait for your package to arrive. Then, if it doesn’t fit, you have to return it and pay even more shipping. All the shipping charges, on top of the higher price of plus size clothing as it is, are like tax for being fat.

Sometimes, you can get free shipping for orders over a certain amount of money. And a few places, like ASOS Curve, offer free returns. But neither is very common.  And even if you can get free shipping for orders over $50 or $100, what if you really only want one item from that store?

2.) You don’t get to try things on before buying them.  Different brands’ sizing run differently, and rarely match up to their size charts. Two similar items by the same brand can fit completely differently. For example, this peplum lace top from Deb fits me perfectly, whereas their floral top is way too tight.

Sometimes, you have buy a lot of things before finding one that fits, which means more waiting and more shipping charges, plus the hassle of packing everything up and taking it to the post office. And some companies are really slow about processing returns, so it can be a month or more before you get your money back (I’m looking at you, eShakti).

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